For years we hold on to abuse, not realizing that by our unforgiveness we are drinking poison and blindly believing it will kill our perpetrator. We live our lives staring at the rear view mirror. The Word of God gives us a road map to recover from relational rifts; a road map to move forward. The first part to recovery is to humble ourselves. Pride keeps us from healing our relationships. The second part is to approach our offender without preconceived notions, abandoning all masked hostility. But the third, and the most trivial part to healing rifts is forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. To forgive is to release our abuser to God. Forgiveness is not stripping ourselves of the right to hold them accountable. Forgiveness is stripping our abuser of all ropes and strings that pull our lives apart.